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Arthur Murray Dance Studios of Central New Jersey

5 Common Misconceptions About Ballroom Dancing

Arthur Murray Dance Studios of Central New Jersey

1. I’ll never be able to look like the dancers I watch on TV
If you’ve ever had the thought while watching your favorite dance show “I’ll never be able to dance like that,” there are some things you should realize about those shows:

a. Those people you see flying across the screen have been eating, sleeping, and breathing partner dancing for their entire lives, or at least for a very intensive period of time.

b. The secret to their success? They’re not actually partner dancing. They’ve only learned choreographed routines to one song and have practiced for weeks. Don’t have time in your schedule to spend 12 hours a day dancing? No sweat! Because not all ballroom dancing has to be competitive. Sometimes it just has to be fun.

2. Ballroom Dancing = Competing
Arthur Murray Dance Studios of Central New Jersey“I don’t want to compete” is usually the first thing out of students’ mouths when they walk through the studio doors.

Although setting a competition as a goal for yourself certainly makes you a more accomplished dancer in the long run, there is a lot more to partner dancing than competing at a high level and sparkly outfits. Although that’s part of it.

More Arthur Murray students come to the studio not because they want to be the next dancing star but to simply feel a little more confident and comfortable dancing with another person at a wedding, at a club, or a family party. In other words, they want to feel comfortable enough to just have fun.

“Ballroom dance” isn’t just waltz or tango. Ballroom dance incompasses all forms of partnered dancing, from salsa to swing to country two step. Whatever music you listen to, there’s a dance style for it. Being able to get up and dance with anybody, anywhere, to any music is what partner dancing actually about. Are you human? Then partner dancing may be for you.

3. You either have it or you don’t
Arthur Murray Dance Studios of Central New JerseyThe only difference between people who dance well and people who don’t? Practice.

Natural ability might speed up the process, but hardwork and dedication are the things that make it stick. Why write yourself off? You deserve to enjoy dancing just as much as the next guy!

Don’t waste time you could be learning and dancing across the floor fretting about how you didn’t start young enough or the fact that you “don’t have rhythm.” Become the dancer you want to be by starting now. The only comparison you should be making is to yourself, before dancing and after dancing.

4. I can learn to dance in a couple of lessons
Arthur Murray Dance Studios of Central New JerseyIf you want to feel comfortable and like you know what you’re doing on the dance floor with another person in your arms, it’s going to take some time (like most good things).

Most people simply don’t realize that what they want out of dancing–feeling confident in their own bodies, having more fun on a night out, being able to move gracefully and build stamina–simply isn’t possible in three or four lessons.

Dancing isn’t a win/lose activity. Dancing is about discovery and growth, not about how fast you can cram dance knowledge. The truth is there is no end to dance education–if we want a cliche to sum it up: it’s about the journey, not the destination!

5. I’ll take some lessons then practice and see how it goes
Although practicing is a huge part of learning any new skill, there’s good practice and there’s bad practice. Partner dancing is tricky because, well, it involves two people. Practicing on your own is great, but unless you have a dance professional there with you at the party, who could tell you why your partner went one way when you meant to go the other, practicing on your own in the beginning is not something that any good dance teacher would recommend.

What should be a fun and relaxing activity can turn into, well, the opposite of that.

If learning to dance is something that you really want to do for yourself, invest the time, energy, and money into doing it right! The experience will last you a lifetime.


Written By Jindalae Suh for Arthur Murray Central New Jersey

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Zach Clark
Zach Clark
Roxanne & Ben were invaluable in helping prep us for our wedding. What a fun and rewarding crash course in the art of the box step and twirl.
R VS
R VS
Ben and Roxanne are both such fun, skilled instructors! My fiancé and I had a four lesson “crash course” with them during which they helped us get ready for the first dance at our wedding. We haven’t had our wedding yet, but we feel so much more confident for the big day after learning the dance they choreographed for our song! We can’t wait to refine it and have a blast.
Daniel Brawand
Daniel Brawand
This place is really sweet. The instructors are all very knowledgeable, kind, and fun! You can tell they really put effort into building a sense of community and non judgement. A refreshing experience to be a part of the little Arthur Murray family for a while while I lived in this part of town. Highly recommend for anyone like me that doesn’t have any experience and wants to give it a go in a welcoming place with folks of all skill levels 👍.
Daniel Stevens
Daniel Stevens
Had our dance lessons here for our wedding. I went in not being able to keep a beat and with no dance knowledge. After just 2 months of classes I felt confident during mine and my wife’s first dance. We worked closest with Ben and he was excellent. Every time we got to work with Bob and Roxanne their enthusiasm rubbed off on us and we had a great time.
Sooseon Kim
Sooseon Kim
Arthur Murray/ An unforgettable Memory, Sooseon Kim “Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we’re here we should dance.” Hi. This is Susan Kim. I’m from Seoul, Korea. I want to share a very special experience I had during last summer. I was so lucky to join the ballroom dance classes for 2 weeks at Arthur Murray (Franchised Dance Centers), located in Highland Park, NJ After the first free lesson and consultation with the instructor, Ben, I instantly decided to register Arthur Murray and spend my time & energy on Ballroom dancing. Ben recommended me to choose ‘Starter Program Package’. At that time, I only had two weeks left before going back to Korea. He explained to me, “It would be great to experience as many as possible in various ways. Starter Program consists of Individual Lesson, Group Lesson and Practice Session. How was it? It was an absolutely awesome experience. All the teachers and staff were kind, friendly and gorgeous. Also, the atmosphere of the studio was very comfortable and convenient for the sake of students. Needless to say, Ben was a very gentle, professional and confident teacher. I instantly figured out how extremely well-qualified he was. I was amazed by not only his elaborate teaching skills but also his endless patience with his students.^^ Actually, I never expected that there was a decent dance studio near my place, New Brunswick. I only searched several dance centers in Manhattan and gave up easily due to an inconvenient location. That’s why I was so excited to find out Arthur Murray in Highland Park. “Exposure & Repetition” these two key words that Ben emphasized to me every time. Those two words are still kept in my mind.
Alice Carroll
Alice Carroll
We have loved our classes at Arthur Murray! My husband and I have always wanted to be able to dance at weddings and now we can and do! We enjoyed our beginners program so much that we signed up for the next level as a 30th anniversary present to ourselves. The teachers are all wonderful and so are our fellow students. Highly recommend!
Bob Gai
Bob Gai
Great place, awesome people.. You will love it there..!
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